We are 2/3rds of the way to having the amount we need to fly out in 24 days! Trusting God to supply all we need, in HIS timing. In my timing, it would already be here. But then, God always provides JUST IN TIME. Sure, I might like the security of knowing the money is here now so we’ll have it when we need it, but would our faith have grown so much if the money was always here way in advance?
We just mailed a check to the adoption agency for $4560, and the tickets are paid for! So, all that’s left is a list of in-country fees, hotel costs, food, car rental, etc. Also, Kris does not get paid for time off work. PLEASE PRAY ABOUT THAT! He actually talked to the boss and put in a request for it, that they would pay him at least partially even while he is gone – this is pretty much unheard of… And he never got a reply or response other than “Why don’t you type something up about why you’re going overseas and we’ll see if anyone wants to donate”. Disappointing, but God is still in control!
We only have 14 days left with N, and as usual every day is FULL. It’s hard to find time to write updates! Thank you all for praying. We haven’t received any of the grants we applied for except a small one to help with N’s airfare. And we are so thankful for that one! God doesn’t need to use grants to make this adoption happen… and there are a couple more I’d like to apply for but it’s VERY time consuming and there just aren’t enough hours in the day! All the paperwork prep I need to do for this trip, the research into an affordable place to stay, car rental, etc plus every day life is about all I can do right now.
We are making huge progress in many areas with N – so many things to learn about living in a family and having parents who love you and care about you. Music is a HUGE one. No one ever cared enough to tell him that he can’t listen to music with bad lyrics and bad words. Explaining why his head doesn’t need to be filled with that negativity was pretty hard. Had to break out the translator for that one. He still doesn’t like it. And I still don’t like rap. LOL But, there is Christian rap out there, people!!! Good lyrics! He thought we were going to try to make him listen to “our kind of music”, so he was pretty thrilled to have me find something he likes.
Last night he was swinging on the hammock really high and he broke an old old chair on the deck that belonged to Kris’ grandfather. And he said “Well, it was an old piece of junk. You don’t need it anyway. No one wants to sit there except Hannah. (Our old dog.) And Hannah smells so bad that the chair is ruined anyway, etc. etc.” So, I gently talked to him about a better way to apologize when you break something and I said something like “There’s just SO much to learn, isn’t there? Families do things so differently than you’re used to and I’m really proud of you for how hard you’re trying.” So, when Kris got home, N said “I’m sorry I broke your dad dad dad dad chair.” (Kris was like: say WHAT?) Then he told him that when he breaks something belonging to someone else he usually just tells them it was a piece of junk anyway and they didn’t need it. Such progress for him to be willing to apologize nicely.
We’re down to only one meltdown a day, on average. Usually around 4 to 6 pm. Knowing that we are both tired by then (our day starts at 4 am!) I am beginning to try to stop at 4 and take some time to pray and be sure his list is done so that the stress level is a lot lower. No/low expectations starting at 4 pm, makes for an easier evening! Yesterdays little fit was over in just 5 minutes, most of which he spent in his room rather than following me around saying rude things. Progress!! After 5 minutes he came out of his room and said he was sorry!
No matter how much of a difficult transition this is for him, he still adamantly wants us to adopt him. Having parents who love you makes all the difference in the world. So much damage is done by abandonment and neglect. It will take a lot of hard work to overcome. Most importantly, please pray that we will be a shining example of God’s love for us and for him, and that he will see his need for the Savior.